I have a friend who believes that every person in our life, past and present, is there to fulfill a very specific purpose. She also believes that friends, while not only fulfilling a purpose, also cater to a very specific facet of our personality.
Say I have a silly side (so do), I have friends that compliment, elevate and sometimes even exaggerate that facet of who I am.
It follows then that when we go through dark periods, while we do indeed have friends full of light and love, we also draw to us the darker, the hidden agenda and the not always so good for us.
Sometimes we even survive them.
Life is ever changing though. Darkness becomes light, we grow and we hopefully find our joy again.
So what then becomes of these dark period friends? Not everyone is capable of change, of finding peace or hope or joy. And not everyone wants to.
In the face of obvious negativity or overwhelming bitterness, the choice and decision is easy to make.
Not so much when it is just an ‘unpresent’ friend. You know the kind. Always too busy. Never answer anything. When you do meet, usually by chance, they are the one who asks if you have put on weight. They are the gossips. The ones you have a sneaky feeling revel in the misery of others. But they never do anything obvious. And they have their good sides too.
I guess I am wondering when you call it quits? At the first veiled insult? At the tenth? Or is it much like a scale, with the good and bad balancing it out?
I’d like to think I am a good friend. The sad thought though is that I am probably someone’s ‘unpresent’ friend.